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I get it. Your partner is helpful and wants to contribute but still it always falls to you to keep tabs on everything, give instructions, organise stuff, remember birthdays, book appointments etc etc.
It’s you who is expected to answer the questions “what’s for dinner tonight?” “where are my keys?” “what time is football training this week?” “when is Theo next due for his vaccinations?”
All this Mental Load is EXHAUSTING and TIME-CONSUMING. It can sap our productivity at work, affect our sleep, reduce our relationship satisfaction and hamper our creativity and career success.
When I returned to work from maternity leave, I searched far and wide for a solution, a way to fairly share the mental load with my husband… and I couldn’t find one.
Eventually, I combined my skills in neurocognitive science, family therapy and organisational management and developed one myself – and it worked! And kept working!
Now I teach my strategy to women all over the world so they too can have more time, energy and mental freedom.
Dr Robyn Miller is an Australian medical doctor, wife, mother and accidental Mental Load expert. The Mental Load Project aims to help women and men around the world recognise and re-balance all the invisible labour that is involved in running a household. Robyn teaches women and their partners how to truly share the mental load – a complete, proven, step-by-step formula to fairly and sustainably share the mental load without chaos, friction or resentment.
“Women's equality has changed faster than anything in human history, but in the end, it comes down to personal relationships between men and women. And a lot of that still has a long way to go.”
“People often ask me how I do it and honestly I spend a lot of time enjoying life too! I'm sure it's down to the fact that I don't have to do EVERYTHING else.”